What would your life be like if you never became emotional, if you were capable of controlling your emotions at all times? Maybe you would be like the Star Trek character Mr. Spock, his responses to every situation was purely logical, never emotional. Everyone has emotions, and our emotions are here to stay. Sometimes our emotions are pleasant to experience unfortunately sometimes they’re not. Sometimes our emotions are grounded in truth, and sometimes they are “false” in that they are based upon false premises, that is to say our own selfish beliefs.
Our society often encourages people to express themselves and not hold back. Unfortunately, there are many people who struggle with a quick or fiery temper. The anger emotion is one everyone is all too familiar with, all of us have been guilty at one time or another. However, having such a temper often leads to misplaced anger. Have you ever misdirected your anger, your frustration, your disappointments, your animosity towards an individual or individuals instead of the placing your emotional distress where it belongs. Often the emotional distresses is a reflection of yourself.
It’s important to note that anger is a valid emotion and is not always sinful. God allows for “righteous anger,” which is anger with the proper focus, the proper motivation, the proper control, the proper duration, and the proper result. We may often feel justified in losing our temper, particularly when someone has hurt or offended us. Our problem is that our temper is often motivated by selfishness and directed toward other people instead of toward sin. The Bible has a lot to say about the importance of controlling one’s temper. It calls a person who easily loses his temper a “fool” (Proverbs 29:11; Ecclesiastes 7:9) and describes someone who cannot control himself as a “city whose walls are broken down” (Proverbs 25:28). A person with a hot temper is often at odds with those around him, becoming easily offended and lashing out in anger for even the smallest slight (Proverbs 15:18)
It is important that we learn how to manage our emotions rather than allowing our emotions to manage us. When you feel angry, it is imperative to be able to stop, identify you are angry, examine your heart to determine why you are angry, and then proceed in God-like fashion. Out-of-control emotions tend not to produce God-honoring results: “Human anger will never produce the righteousness that God desires” (James 1:20). God wants you to use wisdom. Wisdom says wait until the emotions settle down, then examine yourself see if you really believe it’s the proper thing to do. The Bible says in Colossians 3:15 to be led by peace in making decisions. Don’t allow your emotions to make your decisions. “Wisdom always says wait; emotions say hurry.”
The Bible tells us we are to be controlled by the Holy Spirit (Romans 6; Ephesians 5:15–18; 1 Peter 5:6–11), not by our emotions. An emotional person is one who is easily affected with or stirred by emotion; one who displays emotion; one with a tendency to rely on or place too much value on emotion; one whose conduct is ruled by emotion rather than reason.”
One of the main goals of every believer should be emotional stability. Allowing your emotions to control you is not godly. Denying or maligning your emotions is not godly, either. We should thank God for our ability to feel emotions and manage our emotions as a gift from God. The way to manage your emotions is to grow in your walk with God. We are transformed by the renewal of our minds (Romans 12:1–2) and the power of the Holy Spirit the One who produces in us self-control (Galatians 5:23).
A person who lives by emotions lives without principle, it is not possible to walk in the spirit if you are led by your emotions. First Peter 5:8-9 teaches us to be well-balanced and temperate (self-controlled) to keep satan from devouring us. The only way to resist evil is to be rooted, established, strong, immovable and determined in Him.