“You are the author of your life!” The auditorium was at capacity to listen to a well-known motivational speaker, and the message was, “Take charge of your life now, and move from being a victim of life and become a creator. “When I was in school, I remember thinking: I’m in total control of my life and my destiny is in my hands. I know by getting a good education coupled with hard work, I can do anything. I control whom I will marry, where I live, what I do. My life is in my control. These thoughts are normal for most people. Most people like to think they’re in control, especially when it comes to being in control of their lives, their future, and their peace. But control is an illusion. We can absolutely affect some aspects of our lives, our choices in life will certainly have an impact in that they will affect what happens to us.
One of the more prevalent fears plaguing people today would be losing control. This is the fear that if you don’t manage to control the outcome of future events, something dreadful will happen. The more you attempt to control your life, the more fear and anxiety controls you. The illusion of control gives you the feeling of being safe and secure. However, when something happens that is out of your control, a job loss, a bad doctor’s report, a spouse suddenly leaves the marriage, our world immediately becomes very unstable. Our small controllable world is now suddenly extremely fragile. The problem is we demand certainty, in a world that is only sure of one thing, its own uncertainty.
A primary reason most of us resist losing control is simple we trust our limited perceptions, we trust our trained mind, much more than we believe the intrinsic and superior existence that is “God.” Although we talk about letting go and letting God, the majority of the time our actions corroborate our own belief that we truly have a better solution to our issues rather than divine intelligence. I’m going stretch here a bit and say, I believe with all of my heart. There is absolutely nothing that has happened to you, is happening or will happen to you, that God can’t handle with or without your help. In Jesus, all things are possible – Luke 18:27.
Although you frequently tell yourself God is the ultimate and often the only answer to your problem, as with your own challenges, your actions prove you trust your own solutions more than His. There it is, the number one reason that letting go is so difficult: It means giving up all control. A visible indication of where a person is on their spiritual journey is how well they are at letting go. A walk along this narrow path may even be slightly more courageous than taking a road less traveled by most. To make a trip down this path calls for the courage to overcome yourself.
For most of us, giving up or losing control is the ultimate disadvantage, the final loss of power. However, what we are actually saying is that we don’t trust God, or the His plans for us, with something as important as our lives. Most of our actions continue to prove that we believe we are wiser and more competent than God. It’s not surprising we don’t want to let go when our notion of God is so small, weak, and controllable all by us. Instead of embracing a larger, superior and more miraculous concept of God. Many choose to live life delusional, convinced we are in complete control only to find ourselves in the end lost, lonely and alone. Barely surviving in a very dysfunctional world with nothing more than an illusion of our own controlled environment.
“Commit your way to the Lord; trust in him and he will do this: He will make your righteous reward shine like the dawn, your vindication like the noonday sun. Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for him; do not fret when people succeed in their ways when they carry out their wicked schemes.”- Psalm 37:5-7