Focus

focusIt takes time to build a relationship, whether it’s with a friend, your spouse, or your son or daughter. We’ve heard the term “honeymoon phase” used to describe the earliest moments in a relationship, when passion, intensity, desire and the electric spark of the relationship is the most intense. But over time, the intensity of these feelings begins to die down, sometimes to the point where we start to relate to our partner as a casual friend or roommate. Many would say it is impossible to hold the level of intensity in any relationship the way it exists in its honeymoon phase. Continue reading “Focus”

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Contentment

healthMany people seemingly have little or no regard for material possessions. While the rest of us are driven by four words, bigger, better, faster, and more. These words drive our lives, our schedules, our relationships, and even our souls. Those words also define and shape the world that many of us live in.

Behind this fast-paced lifestyle is an unconscious belief system that we can do it all, be it all, and have it all. In the workplace, schools, and in our homes, we’re always feeling pushed to be everything, do everything and have everything. As a result, we live in a continual state of fatigue and depleted relationships. I’m a goal-oriented person I always have my eye on a goal, whether it’s writing a book, exercising daily, improving my blog, waking early, losing weight, or one of a dozen other goals I’ve set for myself in the past few years. And once I’ve achieved a goal, I immediately begin looking for another. Continue reading “Contentment”

Life is Not a Destination…

life-is1Life is also not a journey this misconception has become so much a part of our cultural tradition that we forget it’s nothing more than a metaphor. Usually one offered up to offset our overemphasis on goals and targets and to get to the finish line. The idea is that we become so obsessed with where we’re headed that we don’t notice where we are in the moment. So, to have more fulfilling lives, we’re supposed to stop and smell the roses along the way. So, then what is this thing called life, well if we subscribe to the thinking of one Mr. Alan Watts a renowned British philosopher who some believe had a knack for analyzing and understanding life. Mr. Watts says life is not just about the end journey in fact he contends that our lives should be treated more as a musical composition, with lifts, drops, and improvised beauty in between, because otherwise, the best conductors in the world would be those who played the fastest to arrive at the end the soonest. Instead, it’s inherently playful and creative in and of itself. Continue reading “Life is Not a Destination…”