It takes time to build a relationship, whether it’s with a friend, your spouse, or your son or daughter. We’ve heard the term “honeymoon phase” used to describe the earliest moments in a relationship, when passion, intensity, desire and the electric spark of the relationship is the most intense. But over time, the intensity of these feelings begins to die down, sometimes to the point where we start to relate to our partner as a casual friend or roommate. Many would say it is impossible to hold the level of intensity in any relationship the way it exists in its honeymoon phase.
What if we were equally as capable of creating the passion and enthusiasm to make the relationship thrive as we are at becoming so familiar with our relationship where the same familiarity breeds contempt allowing the relationship suffers. “The moments most of us cherish often occur in the freedom of unstructured and unpressured time together. The apostle Paul wrote, “Let us not give up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing” – Hebrews 10:25. He was speaking specifically about fellowship with believers, and the spirit of that concept applies just as much to fellowship with friends and family. You need to make time to simply “be” with the people you care about.
We have been conditioned to believe that being in relationships is challenging work. Wherever you are focusing your intention, energy, and efforts will determine the outcome you ultimately receive. “Let your eyes look directly ahead and let your gaze be fixed straight in front of you. Watch the path of your feet and all your ways will be established…” Proverbs 4:25-27. This concept is also similar to the latter part of Matthew 6:19-21 “…where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.” Where your treasure is your focus is also, where your focus is your heart will also follow.
We all want intimacy with our Creator, our God. The prospect thrills us and at the same time frustrates us. There are a handful of people we know, or even know of, who experience the kind of closeness with God that our hearts long for. Even in Scripture only a handful of people seemed to have a special relationship with the God. Abraham was called a friend of God. The Lord spoke to Moses face to face. Isaiah saw the Lord sitting on a throne. Paul was taken up into the third heaven, and the Apostle John had an incredible vision, which he recorded in the book of Revelation. These are not your “every day with Jesus” testimonies!
What is remarkable is that Abraham was termed the friend of God. This was not Abraham’s assessment of his relationship with God, nor how he thought about God. It was a statement that God made about Abraham. Isaiah 41:8 8 But you, Israel, my servant, Jacob, whom I have chosen, the offspring of Abraham, my friend; To create a relationship in which your intimacy with God continuously thrives, you must become habitual in your actions: taking appropriate, deliberate action under the influence of the belief that such a relationship can exist.
Jesus prayed and talked with God often, do you?