Harnessing Willpower

WillpowerWillpower touches on nearly all aspects of living an overall healthy life: eating right, exercising, avoiding drugs and alcohol, studying more, working harder, spending less. Willpower underlies anything that involves a decision. Understanding it makes all the difference. In simple terms, willpower is the ability to resist short-term gratification for a long-term goal. It’s no wonder that self-control has become a hot topic in our society, for scientists interested in understanding the roots of human behavior and for practitioners who want to help people live healthier lives. Self-control separates us from our ancient ancestors and the rest of the animal kingdom. It is the ability to subdue our impulses to achieve longer-term goals. Rather than responding to immediate impulses, we plan, evaluate alternative actions, and, often enough, avoid doing things we’ll later regret. The practical significance is enormous. Most of the problems that plague individuals in our modern society — addiction, overeating, crime, domestic violence, sexually transmitted diseases, prejudice, debt, unwanted pregnancy, educational failure, underperformance at school and work, lack of savings, failure to exercise — have some degree of self-control failure as a central aspect. Continue reading “Harnessing Willpower”


Dirty Secrets of Complicated Relationships

dirty-secrets-of-complicated-relationships11Most of us juggle multiple roles and responsibilities every day, and the boundaries between work and life are often blurred at best. Life happens around the clock. Smart technologies have enabled people across the globe to stay in touch and be responsive in real time. In fact, an article in the Huffington Post indicated that the average person checks their smartphone an average of 221 times a day. Continue reading “Dirty Secrets of Complicated Relationships”


ht#MeToo – Me too was just two words; it’s two magic words that galvanized the world,” Tarana Burke said during a roundtable at the United State of Women Summit in Los Angeles. The activist began using the phrase “me too” more than ten years ago, and her movement gained international momentum, spearheaded by social media activity and riding on outrage over Harvey Weinstein’s sexual abuse toward women long perpetrated with impunity.”Whether it’s work on sexual assaults on college campuses or awareness of child abuse, work on sexual harassment, we need to elevate this conversation to action,” I absolutely love her tenacity towards the need to elevate the conversation, to take the words “MeToo” and make them more than a catchphrase more than a hashtag trend but a call for action, for accountability. Continue reading “#JESUS”

Distracted Living

distractionsConsidering all that’s going on in the world today, you may not hear much about the crisis of “distracted living.” Where living in a perpetual state of distraction, you miss out on most of your life because you generally aren’t paying attention, or your attention is so divided, torn in so many directions that you don’t focus on anything.  Let’s face it Google is making us stupid, multitasking is draining our souls, and the current generation is leading us into a dark age of bookless, mindless, power browsing. All those e-mails and social media notifications, casual internet browsing, schedules overloaded with meetings and appointments, result in missed dinners, neglected dates, and forgotten birthdays, and the list goes on and on. Embracing the Internet as the hub of our work, play, and commerce has been the intellectual equivalent to adopting fructose as the center of our national diet, and we’ve all become mentally obese. Continue reading “Distracted Living”

Make it a Happy Life

Every human being seeks happiness without exception. Whatever different means they employ, everyone wants to be happy. What if I told you generally speaking, that you are as happy as you have made your mind made up to be? What if I proposed to you that most of our days are what we make them be? Simply stated to rejoice is a choice. All things considered, you and I can choose happiness or not any sour spirits, for the most part, are the results of a poor choice, not poor circumstances. Continue reading “Make it a Happy Life”

I Love God, But Not Into Church

Perhaps you or someone you know have in the past said something like the following – “I really love God, but I’m not into church or church groups”. Maybe they have even gone as far as to say God is everywhere you know omnipresent, so I really don’t need to go to church or any group to worship God; I know Him, and He knows me we have a good relationship. Continue reading “I Love God, But Not Into Church”

How Long?

How-longI have been watching and listening over the past several weeks as some of the most influential people in the entertainment industry began their descent down from the mountaintops built in their minds. These people, their sins are no anomaly, their acts are no accident, no addictions, no mistakes, but they are all caught up in, and are willing to buy, and keep buying the lies. All of this sin is but the natural result of a world that is untethered like a balloon from the absolute truth of God. Continue reading “How Long?”