panic-at-the-disco-skullsIt does not take an Einstein or even a social psychology researcher to tell us that people lie—and lie often. A prominent study found that people tell, on average, one or two lies every day most often to partners, family members, friends, and co-workers many of these untruths are categorized as little white lies that many would consider harmless. The fact is lying is common. People in business such as executives are no exception. Judging from a few studies executives regularly use unfavorable tactics to gain leverage during negotiations to obtain a better position often making statements that are technically true but are purposely skewed to mislead the other side. Roughly half of the people making business agreements will lie when they have a motive and the opportunity to do so. It is a distinct form of deception called paltering: the active use of truthful statements to influence a target’s beliefs by giving a false or distorted impression. Unfortunately, it is not just businesspeople who palter. There is a solid chance you have paltered at some time in your life. Deception is thus one of the intangibles that people must prepare for in life. Continue reading “WAKE UP!”



At some time in your life just as many of us, you have been disappointed. You’ve been misled, deceived, purposely or unconsciously. Many people have stood in disbelief at the remains of discarded promises that were made but never kept some to self some by others. We have all experienced broken promises, broken and even shattered dreams. Whether you were a kid, a young adult, during mid-life, or even in the later years of your life, we all have experienced shattered dreams. It may be the heartbreak of a divorce, perhaps your parents divorced when you were a child leaving your world devastated. For some, it may be the loss of a job or a home, or maybe failing health has been the cause of your dreams not coming to fruition. Continue reading “Shattered”

The Hearts of Men

the-hearts-of-men-and-women-age-differently-study-finds-495012-2Scientists say that energy from the sun transfers heat to the body through electromagnetic radiation in the form of photons. This radiation causes body temperature to increase. When your body temperature changes more than .5 degrees, your body reacts by being sleepy, grumpy, or tired. Your body is always working—whether it’s hot or cold outside —to maintain a body temperature somewhere in the range of 98.6 degrees. So, the hotter it is outside, the harder your body is working to maintain its temperature inside, your body is longing to be cool and that can be exhausting and very draining. Continue reading “The Hearts of Men”

Harnessing Willpower

WillpowerWillpower touches on nearly all aspects of living an overall healthy life: eating right, exercising, avoiding drugs and alcohol, studying more, working harder, spending less. Willpower underlies anything that involves a decision. Understanding it makes all the difference. In simple terms, willpower is the ability to resist short-term gratification for a long-term goal. It’s no wonder that self-control has become a hot topic in our society, for scientists interested in understanding the roots of human behavior and for practitioners who want to help people live healthier lives. Self-control separates us from our ancient ancestors and the rest of the animal kingdom. It is the ability to subdue our impulses to achieve longer-term goals. Rather than responding to immediate impulses, we plan, evaluate alternative actions, and, often enough, avoid doing things we’ll later regret. The practical significance is enormous. Most of the problems that plague individuals in our modern society — addiction, overeating, crime, domestic violence, sexually transmitted diseases, prejudice, debt, unwanted pregnancy, educational failure, underperformance at school and work, lack of savings, failure to exercise — have some degree of self-control failure as a central aspect. Continue reading “Harnessing Willpower”


r1620105_246933643 little letters one powerful word J-O-Y. All of us want to experience Joy; observations show that the demand is extremely high for this elusive commodity. Making it difficult to experience Joy is life itself. Every day we are faced with life, and in life, there are stories that remind us of our own mortality as human beings, but when you lose someone who means the world to you, someone you love with all your heart, something deep down on the inside, deep within you changes forever. The everyday drama we allow into our lives falls away and suddenly seems insignificant. We find ourselves reaching out and opening our heart to let others in. We start to notice the simple pleasures. We become acutely aware that we never really know when our time might be up, and we make a pledge to let joy into our life. Continue reading “J-O-Y”

Dirty Secrets of Complicated Relationships

dirty-secrets-of-complicated-relationships11Most of us juggle multiple roles and responsibilities every day, and the boundaries between work and life are often blurred at best. Life happens around the clock. Smart technologies have enabled people across the globe to stay in touch and be responsive in real time. In fact, an article in the Huffington Post indicated that the average person checks their smartphone an average of 221 times a day. Continue reading “Dirty Secrets of Complicated Relationships”


ht#MeToo – Me too was just two words; it’s two magic words that galvanized the world,” Tarana Burke said during a roundtable at the United State of Women Summit in Los Angeles. The activist began using the phrase “me too” more than ten years ago, and her movement gained international momentum, spearheaded by social media activity and riding on outrage over Harvey Weinstein’s sexual abuse toward women long perpetrated with impunity.”Whether it’s work on sexual assaults on college campuses or awareness of child abuse, work on sexual harassment, we need to elevate this conversation to action,” I absolutely love her tenacity towards the need to elevate the conversation, to take the words “MeToo” and make them more than a catchphrase more than a hashtag trend but a call for action, for accountability. Continue reading “#JESUS”